Recovery is possible! I and many others are living proof. After years of feeding my addictions, I had lost nearly everything. In a moment of clarity, I reached out for help. The choices that I could pursue toward my goal of lasting sobriety were overwhelming. Again, luckily there was someone who would walk with me through those first few months and helped me find MY PATH!
With all of the choices today getting started on YOUR road to recovery can be daunting. That”s where a recovery coach can help, as it did me, all those years ago. Over the past seven years I’ve helped over 50 people navigate the world of recovery and find the path that worked for them. Answer the following questions (truthfully) and contact me. Again recovery is possible!
- Do you stop only to start back again?
- Has your use resulted in family or legal issues?
- Are you ready and willing to do whatever it takes to secure your sobriety?
Call me at 720-298-7655. The first session is free.
There are an incredible number of theories on the cause of addiction. When considering a treatment option, always make sure that their philosophy on the cause and treatment is inline with yours.
I approach addiction as an unhealthy or toxic “para-bond” that a person forms with a substance. By its very definition a para-bond is an unhealthy attachment or association that is outside or beyond the norms of society. This bonding with a substance takes on all the look and feel of a more traditional bond formed between people. But be sure, at its core, an unhealthy or toxic relationship. As such it closely resembles an abusive, toxic relationship. Over time the substance will appear to control the person, dictating their every move. You will notice the addict seeking to spend copious time alone with their substance. Even when logic would dictate that the time need be spent in other pursuits. The addict will leave friends or even family if they object to the substance. Their behavior will continue to morph until the addict doesn’t even begin to resemble their former self.
If you subscribe to the parabond philosophy, then the best approach is to view recovery much like you would a divorce. The pain and dissonance associated with leaving a long-term human relationship will be present in early recovery. Filling those voids left by the loss of the substance with healthy things is therefore paramount. Failure to properly grieve the loss and rebuild a whole new life will only result in falling into another toxic relationship (whether with a human or another para-bond type). Here are three hard and fast rules you must follow in order to have a successful (long-term) recovery:
- You must make an ongoing and thorough inventory of your life and get rid of everything that remind you of your addiction. Think back to the divorce analogy I used earlier. You will often see those going through such a break up throwing away all the things in the home that remind them of the other, but then there are the places, friends, event that are a reminder of the other. Those need to go as well. Some ask if they need to leave the area where they used in order to have a better chance at sobriety. I’m of the opinion that you need to do what is going to give you the best chance for success. But the inventory must be a constant thing, every day will bring new events that need to be viewed in the light of whether it encourages sobriety or addiction.
- Recovery is much more analogous to marriage than casual dating. Many look into sobriety because their addiction has brought on negative consequences (legal, family, etc.). They view sobriety as something to “try” not necessarily replace the relationship with the substance. So when the road to recovery gets the least bit rocky, they are free to return to their “first love”, the substance. Sobriety like marriage needs to contain the phrase “forsaking ALL others”. There is no need going back. Sobriety, like marriage, must be nurtured daily. Feed it and the addiction desires will go away in time.
- Choose a higher power! So many doom their recovery efforts by failing to consider the importance of a higher power. Think about it this way. Your best thinking and efforts got you into the addiction. You cannot get out with out help from something bigger than you! Many simply choose to say God is their higher power. But when pressed to describe why or what makes God such a good choice, they have no idea. Learn all about your higher power, why will they be the best. Treat your higher power search like that of any other large purchase. You wouldn’t buy a home or car sight unseen or without some research into the purchase. Do your homework on your higher power.